Tuesday, November 19, 2013
Abuse
I really could relate to this chapter a lot however what was the most was the section on physical and emotional abuse. I was in a abusive relationship for over 13 years. It started with physical abuse then lead to emotional abuse. My ex was a drunk and would blackout and go into rages, he finally sobered up and it became more of an emotional abuse. Being in the midst of it was exhausting like Patricia Evans stated in her video. I was surprised when she said a lot of men read her books and want to change.I thought most abusers never changed. I know the only thing that got me out was an affair and it changed my life forever in a positive way. What I would like to see is more resources for abused people to get support and help.
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Thank you, Holly, for sharing so much of your story with us. I, too, was in somewhat of an emotionally abusive relationship. To this day, I'm not sure if it could be classified as such. He was a rageaholic, and although his anger was usually not directed towards me, it consumed every aspect of my life. He was also extremely controlling and manipulative. I never thought I would be the type of person that would stay in that kind of relationship, but more than anything I felt sorry for him, he was like a child. I thought it was my job to help him. Although I didn't exactly have an affair, the only way I was able to leave him was by purposely developing feelings for someone else. I knew I had to weaken my emotional ties to him or I'd never have the strength to leave. It sounds weak to me now, but I am thankful that it worked.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry that you had to go through that. No one should have to be treated like that. I think that a lot of men abuse women whether it be emotional or physical because they are weak themselves. I think women who get out of relationships like these are very brave and it makes you a much stronger person. I'm glad you were able to turn that around and make yourself happy!
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